13 September 2009

Jesus is Not My Boyfriend

So why are so many contemporary "praise and worship" songs written as if a teenage girl is singing to her first boyfriend? Below is what I consider to be the worst offender. Kari Jobe singing "The More I Seek You":

In case you didn't catch all of that, here are the lyrics:
The more I seek you,
The more I find you
The more I find you, the more I love you

I wanna sit at your feet
Drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breathe, feel your heart beat
This love is so deep, it's more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it's overwhelming
(From Top)

Is anyone else gagging? Not only is the song nauseating, but then we have to sing the same lines over and over? I've determined that if I ever hear this song played in my church, I will leave and never look back for fear that I'll be turned into a pillar of salt.

Do I love Jesus. YES. Do I love Him romantically? NO. That is not Biblical! Jesus Christ is our Lord, our Savior, not our boyfriend and certainly not our bearded girlfriend (for the men). Speaking of, just a thought: if I, as a woman, would be uncomfortable singing that song, how in the world must the men in the congregation be feeling? Talk about out of your comfort zone, yikes!

Another example is Matt Redman's "Let My Words Be Few":
You are God in heaven
And here am I on earth,
So I'll let my words be few-
Jesus I am so in love with You

And I'll stand in awe of You,
Yes I'll stand in awe of You,
And I'll let my words be few-
Jesus I am so in love with You

The simplest of all love songs
I want to bring to You,
So I'll let my words be few-
Jesus I am so in love with You

Thankfully, Redman has humbly confessed that upon further Scripture study and reflection, he has realized that the use of romantic language when singing to Christ is not exactly Biblical.

Moving beyond the romantic, I take further issue with the incredible audacity of so many "worship" songs that are, in fact, worshiping us instead of Jesus! For example, "You are Worthy of My Praise":
I will worship (I will worship)
With all of my heart (with all of my heart)
I will praise You (I will praise You)
With all of my strength (all my strength)
I will seek You (I will seek You)
All of my days (all of my days)
And I will follow (I will follow)
All of Your ways (all Your ways)
    I will give You all my worship
    I will give You all my praise
    You alone I long to worship
    You alone are worthy of my praise
I will bow down (I will bow down)
Hail You as king (hail You as king)
And I will serve You (I will serve You)
Give You everything (give You everything)
I will lift up (I will lift up)
My eyes to Your throne (my eyes to Your throne)
And I will trust You (I will trust You)
I will trust You alone (trust You alone)
    I will give You all my worship
    I will give You all my praise
    You alone I long to worship
    You alone are worthy of my praise
Really? Will I really do all these things? Now, I'm not saying we shouldn't strive to do all these things, but this song is really only talking about how great I am because I'm going to worship, and praise, and trust, and seek. I, I, I, I! Now, if I'm not mistaken, I can't do anything I'm supposed to do apart from God. I can't "make a decision" for Christ and I certainly can't choose to, by my own will, live solely and perfectly for Him. I wish I could, but that's the beauty of the cross. Without 100% dependence on Christ and the Holy Spirit in me, I will only end up falling victim to this world. "I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing." John 15:5. Hm, maybe we should be singing about our complete and utter dependence on God instead of making a bunch of promises to Him that we know we will never keep.

Or, better yet, why don't we sing something theologically and doctrinally sound? These songs today are so overwhelmed with emotion that they lack any real substance. You want a song that will invoke true emotion? Try something steeped with truth and good news like "A Mighty Fortress is Our God"!

1 comment:

  1. Completely agree and for a long time, thought it was just me... nice to know I'm not alone in this... My area has three christian radio stations. There are times when I can't listen to any of them! I don't enjoy songs I find to be not doctrinally pure... One playing lately says, "Tell your heart to beat again." What? Thanks for sharing...


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